1.) ‘It’s over’, What do you think can be the reason for breaking up of a long term relationship?
2.) ‘Busy hu, ttyl’, What can be the reason for pretending that you are busy, when someone calls you with keen interest?
3.) ‘Aaj nahi possible hoga’, What can be the reason for not attending a reunion after so many years of your college life?
4.) ‘She read the text and ignored. Attitude bhara hai. Ab mai kyu text karo?’, What could be the reason for those ego shuffles in real?
5.) ‘Yaar ab who baat nahi hai shopping mein’, What could be the reason for this boring window shopping which doesn’t lasts your happiness for long? And blaa blaa blaaaa…..
I WANT THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON, THE REASON and yes, still THE REASON!
And after stressing a bit, I found the reason right reserved in my own pocket. Yes, my very own, my very favorite, my very personal and my very lovable ‘THE MOBILE PHONE’!
But, how can that be the actual reason, is surely a question that might be shaking your head. Well, let me answer you: Our only phone is ruining our lives.
Soote, jaagte, uthte, baithte, khaate, peete and what not, we have made ourselves glued up to these new inventions.
“Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar !”
1.)Breakup sounded more on: Mai aas pass tere aur mere pass tu? (Babaji ka thullu!)
Well, breakups! When we had no social networkings, even relationships had those fun elements. No phones, still had the telepathy to connect: No facebook, still had the ‘DIL-SE-DIL’ ka connection to see faces: No whtsapp, still had those emoticons to express desires…But today, these are the only toxic reasons to kill your love and dig you half-alive in the graveyards….Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar !
2.) Reading books sounded more on : Humesha tumko chaha, aur chaha kuch bhi nahi!
Books…..these were the real reasons to exchange love-letters. I sure am most of you had these experiences stabbed in your hearts. Asking your crush, which book are you reading, use to extract topics to increase your conversations ahead. But today, when it comes to books, online books are surely shattering all those dreams into hells… Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
3.)Proposals sounded more on: Ishq tera mera…..not online se zyadda!
Final stage when things were all set, bus propose karna bakki rahta, it used to be more on ‘Kya bolegi woh yaar’. Surkhiyya hai havaaoo mein, do diloo ke milne ki was the kind of feeling even our parents would have experienced…..No place for online love, only offline romance! That eagerness to meet, nakhre, nautanki, sharmana, ikraar, inkaar, and sooooooooooooooooooooooo many feelings all butterflied together. And today, its only online love…haar semester me koi naya…no commitment to last that ‘ONLY’ love forever! Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
4.)Nadi-ka-pahad (outdoor games) sounded more on: Khamoshiyyon ke suratton mein, dhunde tera shor!
Candy crush, the only reason who is spoiling our habits these days. I mean gone are those days when ‘NADI-KA-PAHAD’ used to be a dream project for all galli walle friends and cousins. Daat khaana, khidkiyya todna sounded much better than today when comments cannot be heard in 3BHK flats. Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
5.)Street shopping sounded more on: Man javee…menu offline shopping karade!
Shopping with the best and bestest…I am going for shopping, would you join me? Questions that raised so many feelings for girls(because boys will be boys!).Then shopping ke beech mein gupshups, statements like :’Yeh jyada accha hai us walle se, haiiee kitna sasta hai yahape, Mai toh puri dukkan hi utha lete, time kaam pad gaya, kal fir se shopping chalege, wohh blue walla latkaya dress dikhayee bhaiyya’….I mean there used to be soo much enthusiasm, so much excitement and so much happiness in those lil things…But today, when it comes to window shopping, we surely are missing all those elements na? Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar! So, next time whenever you decide to opt for a shopping, just try to utter this ‘Man javee…menu offline shopping karade’…
6.)Haatapaiee sounded more on: Adhure tum, adhure hum bin tumhare!
Haatapaiee (it’s a hindi word for fights)…It was more on realistic. ‘Usko toh kal dekhunga!’ was what entertained people for years. But today, an online fight gives a damn on the things that can’t be experienced in real! Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
7.)Reunion sounded more on: Hai zidd yeh badi majbooriya!
Reunion….dosto ka…it had a feeling of meeting friends after so longggg…Everyone used to sit and present their lives greatest ironies. But today, when you give your best to call your friend, you only get a reply ‘I’m busy, in a meeting, ttyl’. You don’t hear a word from that friend and directly what you see is those rare friends posting photos and giving updates about their marriages…’Kamine invite to karta, huhhh!’, Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
8.)Chai ki tapri sounded more on: Ek garam chai ki pyalii hoo?
College ke chai ki tapri, a single samosa and just katta gang….everything was so much fun…But when you decide to meet them today, all of them are busy in whtsapping with their beloveds instead of paying attention to those who are sitting with you and what to hear from you. Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar!
Somewhere, we have lost everything, rather a very delicate part of our lives. A very delicate part when ‘Bappi Lahiri’ disco songs were the thrill to dance crazily; a very delicate part when ‘ghar ghar’ used to be a very special game played with cousins when mom used to sleep in the afternoons; a very delicate part when ‘Nani’s home’ in the summers had memories to eat some special dishes which she would prepare exclusively for all her grandchildren ;a very delicate part when ‘Malgudi days’ was the most awaited serials; a very delicate part when making sand castles on beaches used to be our favorite activities; a very delicate part when ‘Rajmalai’ used to give the happiest pleasures; a very delicate part when ‘Shaktiman’ used to be the guiding source for all his lil fans..I tell you, everything had a memory! But today when we are kidnapped in the world of ONLINE MODE of technologies, we are living virtually and not into those realities which had effervescent pleasures of the world. Even though, the living sources were just enough, yet they had ‘OFFLINE pleasures’…..But today, ONLINE world has covered those offline smiles. Somewhere that emotional connect is missing. Atleast ek baar ‘OFFLINE AAJA’, I sure am you’ll say ‘Haiee! Yeh bhi kya din hai yaar!’
Perfect blog for new generation...
ReplyDelete‘Malgudi days’ one of my favorite... Awesome blog ,,, real Awareness Aromas...!!
ReplyDeleteReally i miss malgudi days a lot ... aankh mai pani la deya tum logone hats off to you n god bless you
Deletethats true... now a dayzz we need to go offline...
ReplyDeletewo memories... yaad aagai.. thank you guyzz...
ReplyDeleteagree with you... now a days hum bheed mai bhi akele hai, hum bus mobile pe rehte hai. apnose apnapan chalagaya hai, aab bus online dekhawa reh gaya hai
ReplyDeleteTrue, Somewhere, we have lost everything, thanks to remember us those days n memories
DeleteI think you make some excellent points... Mechile
ReplyDeletenice info you have shared here, i like your post. technology have made very advancement in today's world but i think overuse of technology affect our personal life, relations & health.. Good research..
ReplyDeleteAs for phones on a table for lunch or dinner. It is extremely rude to ignore the people you are with just to answer the phone. It can wait. The phone is not as important as the people who are sharing their personal time with you... like your todays post very much.. Justeen
ReplyDeleteThe mobile phone, particularly the smartphone, has nearly been vilified as
ReplyDeletea god of our society. I don't know of a person who doesn't have one (in
fact I know several people who have multiple "smart" devices) It has become
something almost as necessary as electricty these days.
Why has the smartphone become so important to us? To answer that, I think
it's necessary to ask the question- what is it our phones do for us? On the
practical hand, they organize our lives with easily modified schedules,
keep us update with work and social connections via emails, texting, and
calls, and allow us to be more productive by having access to information
quickly. All of this is useful in and of itself, but it wouldn't seem that
these traits would bring about the devotion, and near fanaticism that the
smartphone has garnered. It would seem the smartphone has become something
much more valuable to us on an unconscious level. As a wise friend of mine
pointed out, they have become our voice for when we wish to communicate.
They have become our brains for the way they allow us to access information
at speeds previously unheard of. They have also become our memory, for the
pictures and videos they record and hold, precious records that had they
gone unrecorded might have been lost to the unyielding pick ax that is
time.
The phone has become an extension of ourselves. The device that is nearly
glued to our palms has become the way we connect with the world, and with
other people in it. Particularly with the advent of texting, it's become
possible to instantaneously contact someone in a variety of situations in
which we previously hadn't been able to. Just the other day I walked past a
store window and in it was a dress that I knew my best friend on the East
coast would have loved, so I was able to snap a picture and show her in
less than a thirty seconds, expressing the notion that I was thinking of
her and what maybe she would like for the next gift-giving holiday. How
often has it been said that it is all of those little things that are the
bricks and mortar to the houses of relationships that we build? Of course
we have to be careful that we don't accidentally allow it to take over our
lives. Resistance isn't futile, but it is conscious, something that the
smartphone is much less than it used to be
Your r right, now a days we live in a virtual world of whatas n facebook, toh jarasa offline aaja must need. This time graphics awesome.. something new
ReplyDeleteI agree with u r first 5 points. nice research. wonderful black and white images perfectly match.
ReplyDelete“Haiee! Woh bhi kya din the yaar !”... i miss those days.
ReplyDeleteYou are right that soote, jaagte, uthte, baithte, khaate, peete and what not, we have made ourselves glued up to these new inventions caller mobile phone. somewhere we lose ourself and our relations and friendship.
ReplyDeleteThank you for remembering those days without mobile wale and without facebook and whatsap wale. ketne happy the hum tab bhi jab whatsap n facebook n mobiles nahi the. hum din ba din khuddko aur humare apnoko bhoolte jarahe hai just because of this technology. aaj hum kya kharahe logoko wo important nahi hai jetna facebook pe share karna. its all virtual world. hum real world bhool gai hai.. thanks yaad delaneke leye. god bless you
ReplyDeleteNo facebook, still had the ‘DIL-SE-DIL’ ka connection to see faces: No whtsapp, still had those emoticons to express desires…perfect say. Face se book hata face to face aaja... lol nahi battise chamkaja. :)
ReplyDeleteGames without mobile... kya din the wo bhi ..good to remember
ReplyDeleteThanks for my best memories like ‘Bappi Lahiri’ ghar ghar’ ‘Nani’s home ‘Malgudi days ‘Rajmalai’ ‘Shaktiman’
ReplyDeleteWe are usetoo of mobile phones..
ReplyDeleteTodays facebook n whatsap love like morning live till evening breakup...
ReplyDeleteYup completly agree with you thattoday we live in a virtual fake world of facebook and whatsap. there where no feelings no love no relationship just selfishness n fake people
ReplyDeleteAmazing topic ... good work
ReplyDeleteSomewhere we miss our real emotions real feeling
ReplyDeleteYoue are really a eye openner guys. thank you for such a wonderful blog
ReplyDeleteI miss my buddyzzz on chai ke tapri.
ReplyDeleteHats off buddies
ReplyDeleteLog kehatr hai ke whatsap and facebook ke wajahase communication easy hogaya hai. but reality ye hai ke hum khud ko akela kar rahe hai . misunderstandings badh rahi hai. dooriya badhh rahi hai. hum ekdusreke emotions ko samajh he nahi paa rahe isse wajahase breakup n oll badh rahe hai aur hum bheed mai bhi akele aur bhi akele horahr hai
ReplyDeleteI've been with my friends, and one of them would be on the phone all the time. It is not pleasant. Very, very rude. Cell phone are a great tool for many activities of our daily life, but it can be a very bad one too.
ReplyDeleteEven though cell phones have advanced tremendously in the past few decades and have many advantages, they have begun to diminish personal communication and interrupt time spent with loved ones. Many people have come to rely on cell phones, and spend useless time on these devices, when they could be doing something productive. Not to mention the amount of deaths resulted in road distraction involving texting and driving. While there is a plus side to cell phones, the usage and reliability effects daily lives in more ways than people realize.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate the write up. The impact on relationships is very alarming. The number of couples who are disconnected from each other but are very connected to their smartphones is increasing. Technology is not the problem, it is the people who are addicted to their technological devices and who are avoiding human interaction face to face that's the issue. Well written article and antique graphics.. Well done
ReplyDeleteI think your article is great and I agree with what you are saying.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great article that is just scratching the surface of a larger problem of our everchanging society. I would enjoy to engage you in a conversation on this topic if you are still reseaching it.
ReplyDeleteI heartily agree with the points you make in this article. Many users of electronic communication forget -- or ignore -- the fact that there is a real, live, human on the other end of the keyboard and screen
ReplyDeleteThis article has so many good points. A relationship does suffer from technology. People are becoming more anti-social and isolated. people can't have a face to face conversation anymore.
ReplyDeleteHello! I'm glad I stumbled across this great article about technology and its effects on individuals and relationships. I've learned this hard way, in many different scenarios.
ReplyDeletefacebook & whatsap getting complicated day by day and its ruin our daily life, relations, friendship, infect everything, we are just addict of that.
ReplyDeleteReally nice article and its a truth..
ReplyDeleteI loved what you said about the technology & people.
ReplyDeleteNice blog, keep it up.
ReplyDeleteA cell phone ruins our life by:
ReplyDelete1. Being Addictive.
2. Creating False Relationships.
3. Being A Relationship Wrecker.
4. Destroying Boundaries Between Professional And Personal Life.
5. It Is Distracting Your Real Purpose In Life.
agree with you buddy
DeleteIt's not helping as much as you think it is — and it's damaging things more than you realize.
ReplyDeleteEven with the most devoted couples, it seems that once-common conversations in bed have been replaced with endless scrolling through social media apps or funny image-based sites – individually.
ReplyDeleteIs the internet putting up a barrier between people, even in bed?
We compulsively carry our smartphones with us wherever we go. The classroom, the bathroom, the bedroom, the outdoors — our phone is always in hand as if it were some magic self-defense tool capable of protecting us from all that is evil in the world.
It all happened so fast. We didn’t have the time to set any boundaries for smartphone usage, and now we find ourselves unable to save our relationships and form meaningful interactions with those dear to us.
Smartphones are very useful in many circumstances. However, although not ruining your relationships per se, they can harm it in devious ways.
Recently I traveled to Europe and was struck by all the phones. I saw couples sitting at tables each in their own world ignoring one other. I saw a family with the children and no one was directly relating to one another. Each of them tune into their own electronic device.
ReplyDeleteI had resistance to getting a cell phone. My friends still complain that I seldom answer it. I like it better that way.
Thanks for the article. I hope more people stop to think before they turn their phones on.
Susan
Any new tool or shiny object commands our attention. But you’re so right, Phones can become drug-like. They also run the risk of making our relationships a mile wide and an inch deep…plenty of them, but not much in the way of substance.
ReplyDeleteOur family values our time together…but yes, it is a challenge to put the “electronic crack” down... Perfect combination of Graphics, Lyrics & Write up..
yes, smartphones are userfule, but when they are being used 24 7 it is detrimentle to a good relationship
ReplyDeleteThank you for this life changing article! I couldn’t agree better to what you have written. Being a smartphone ‘addict’ myself, I want to thank you for making me realize how much I have been missing in life. As I type this, my smartphone lay in my cupboard, waiting for me to return to it. Hopefully, I won’t..Thank you once again to you guys
ReplyDeleteMy ex bf and I broke up but he stills wants to stay in touch and let me come to his families house.he wants to be just friends.now that he have a new phone he don’t let me check it like I always did with his previous phone.he goes in the bathroom with his phone and everywhere he goes he is just addicted to it. If I speak to him he just text ppl and don’t comment on my option and my commnuication.he did told me he have been hurt a lot during other relationships.women leave him.he is the only guy that did leave me.and I am the only girl that didn’t leave him. I did just walk away.I am single now I am happy.he is to addicted to his cell phone..
ReplyDeleteI want to cry.
ReplyDeleteI wish I had see all of these post when I was going through the destruction of my own life with the advent of ‘smarter phones’.
Irony is that I am even spending time online reading this, but having lost so much and so many and even myself to this phenomenon, this IS what I am left with, for this eve anyway.
You all have said it all so well.
Tech certainly has it’s time and place but nothing,
nothing replaces the warmth of seeing the moistness in someone’s eyes,
the feeling of the gentle accidental brush against a friends arm,
the sounds of rise, pitch and then soft trail-off of his giggle,
being amused, again, (how could I forget) at the way she holds a spoon…
…And when they are gone, really gone, is it their “posts” that we wish we had back?
Is that really, what will cause us to cry?
I couldn’t have said it better myself. People don’t realize how bad this obsession has become and how many relationships are suffering because of it.
ReplyDeleteThanks for the great article!
completely agree with everything you wrote! This happens around my group of friends.
ReplyDeletewhy is it ruining us and our relationship. because WE are allowing it to. Grow some balls, and turn it off! OR can you! If you cant…why cant you! Your an addict to a piece of plastic. Good Job
ReplyDeleteI agree so much. I have completely ended friendships because that person is always on their smartphone on so many apps. Once time this person just scrolled through pics of someone they didn’t like making fun of their pics and was showing me.
ReplyDeleteUgh, just reminded me of all the times I go out to a bar, dinner or just hang out and someone is so caught up in their phone. I even have to remind myself to put it away – staked on the table or just turn it off. Great read!
Ally
I have just realized my addiction of my smartphone. our situation with my boyfriend is even worse, we can get into bed around 10 and give each other backs and concentrate on our phones until we sleep and that can be after an hour or more...gerry
ReplyDeleteI completely understand what you’re saying because I’m in the same boat. I’m sure I’m on my phone more than I should be, but I’ve been working on it. I wish the hubby would try too. We’ve had plenty of conversations about it and it doesn’t seem to matter. I’m sorry but when you can’t be intimate with your spouse without messing with your phone there’s a problem :(.
ReplyDeleteI’m reading this because It’s been happening in my own “married” life. Instead of my husband spending time with me, he has taken more and more time on his phone than anything. If I talk to him about it, we just end up in a never-ending argument. I feel unwanted and alone. Sometimes I feel like giving up.
ReplyDeleteI hope my husband would realize about this before its too late. I don’t want to sound like tape recorder every time that I am arguing on this smartphone usage. First thing in the morning, he wants to check all his messages, notifications, while eating, resting in bed, after lovemaking, and even before closing his eyes to sleep. I am not sure for how long I can tolerate this.
ReplyDeleteMY SMARTPHONE IS RUINING MY LIFE
ReplyDeleteI agree with this. It's appalling, how we're constantly hooked onto our phones, esp during group interactions.
ReplyDeleteWhen you wake-up in the morning and your new girlfriend, first thing she does is grabbing her cell phone to scroll down on Facebook and not even looking at you in your eyes or saying good morning, it feel very disappointed. Or even at lunch time, not even 5 minutes without touching this gadget, this is really ruining relationship big time.
ReplyDeleteThey have caused me to be jelous of her even if theres nothing to be jelous of you think men are messaging her on facebook while your at work you think the saucy piks she puts up , are not for you(i dnt hav fb-she wont allow me to) your in a world of insecurity
ReplyDeleteAmazing article! You really spoke the truth. I find it so hard to have fun with friends, because every time we’re out, I’m the only one that wants to just dive in and eat my food without taking 10 pictures first, and then applying some cheap filter on it so that I can post the pictures on Instagram. It becomes frustrating when you want to spend time with friends, but all they want to do is show off what they’re doing on Facebook. I hope someday they realize how much time they’re wasting on these useless social media websites.
ReplyDeletegreat article, i agree with everything said. Phones are taking over and theres nothing that can stop us from being brainwashed. this explanation might seem drastic but take a second to think about it. What would happen if all phones were shut off by the government. or some type of EMT disabled all devices. our tablets, phones, computers, all dead. unable to work. What would we do then? we rely on these things so much that if this happened, the entire population would go crazy. how would we contact people. what? a letter? how do i write a letter? what side does the stamp go on?…these questions would be asked by many people. if we don’t fix this problem now, our future generations will be burdened even more so than we think. and its all our fault.
ReplyDeleteThis article has inspired me…I’m deleting FB from my phone. I rarely use the computer, so I guess I’ll rarely use FB! I hate the mindlessness of social media, but it’s so addicting!!
ReplyDeleteI hope this article helps people. I know my marriage suffers, slightly for now, because i
of smartphones in general. 4 years ago it wasn’t even a problem!
Anyway, thank you!
smartphones have put a very big gap between people and their loved ones.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I think a lot of relationships have been ruined by one person’s addiction to social media, whether that addiction leads to a connection with a past love or crush—and that can be detrimental—or sometimes it simply means that you get home at night to spend time with your significant other and you have nothing to talk about because you’ve spoken about everything all day through social media or you’ve looked through each other’s social media feeds.
ReplyDeleteWe had a business lunch where everyone had to turn their devices off... an eerie amount of colleagues had to go to the restroom frequently and there was nothing wrong with the food...Philip
ReplyDeleteGive it 20 years and people won't be able to communicate face to face. People are welded to their phones, its like a life support machine (the stricken look on their faces when mislay it says it all). Try and have a conversation with them face to face for longer than 30 seconds and they would have checked their phone at least twice. I find it sad and rude. Before all the negative comments start, I am 38, own a galaxy S4 on a standard contract and probably use it 3 times a day. I don't feel the need to go on facebook to see that someone has just yawned or changed the toilet roll.
ReplyDeleteIn a few years time conversation will have disappeared completely
ReplyDeleteThis is just odd to me. Nothing is destroying your relationship but yourself. If you pick up your phone when your significant other is trying to talk to you or say something important, that's on you, not your phone. It means you are a sad, shallow shell of a human being, and can't be bothered to show the barest of respect. Honestly, stop with the blaming of technology. The phone doesn't send texts itself. change our self and stop adicting to cell pjones or social apps
ReplyDeleteYer its true, many girls walk around with there snout buried in the phone all day. Ive actually left a date early before because a girl was constantly checking her phone. The funny thing is you can see on peoples faces when they do it that they know they shouldn't be, they look sheepish but its like a compulsion to these people
ReplyDeleteMy partner is terrible with his phone. The Sky sports app takes up his life as does a star wars game. Sometimes I want to break the phone, HELP ME.
ReplyDeleteSmartphones drive me nuts. I'll probably get one sometime, but i have been delaying it as much as possible. My gf is constantly taking hers out and using it when she is bored. We can't even watch a movie together without scrolling through social media sites several times throughout the film. I think I'm going to start opening my laptop and going online every time she is on her phone so she hopefully realizes how annoying it is.
ReplyDeleteNow a days students use there phone, whatsap, facebook during exam time also. its really bad
ReplyDeleteYou know it's bad when your wife is playing "Words with Friends" while making love.
ReplyDeleteI went to the theatre last week and sat in the circle. As soon as the interval curtain came down the stalls were lit up with people checking their phones! They must have been suffering from withdrawal symptoms during the first half. So depressing.
ReplyDeleteWhile sitting at a nice restaurant on our "date night" I have texted my wife to tell her to put her phone away. In the text I warned her that next time I would call so her phone would ring and everyone in the place would know what's going on. .... She hasn't done it since, but it bothered me that I had to do it in the first place.
ReplyDeleteIs this generation incapable of putting down the phone for two hours? Here's my old woman rant: remember the days when we had to use a landline to call each other, unless you wanted to lug around a 5 pound cellphone attached to a briefcase? "Texting" was "sending an email" through your dial up service on your giant PC...IF you had a PC. People went out together and actually talked to each other with no distractions.
ReplyDeleteToo true, go out and see how many people have their phones on tables or how many couples are sitting opposite each other looking down at their phones! I went to what was supposedly a plush club in london a few weeks ago, and everyone was sitting down on their phones the entire night! I used to be addicted to my smartphone too, but now i use a basic phone and barely use it, i wish more people would consider giving up their phones and interact with the world around them! Im sure people are lonelier than ever before and this is one of the main reasons.
ReplyDeleteThis has been a constant struggle in my marriage. When my husband comes home from work, he eats dinner then sits and plays on his phone until bedtime. I've asked, I've begged, I've complained, I've even demanded. Nothing helps. But as soon as we go to bed and he gets frisky, he can't understand why I say no. You can't ignore someone all night and expect them to just rollover when YOU want attention. It doesn't work that way.
ReplyDeletezara offline aake toh dekho.. Real mai jee ke toh dekho... perfectly design well written..
ReplyDeletethe point you discuss its awesome
ReplyDeleteI abandoned my smartphone two years ago, and I'll never get one again. All we get in Social Media are people's projections of themselves without the rest of them, we're getting avatars. I recently read an article about if Jesus would tweet or not. My answer is that he would knock on your door to have a real relationship, hang out, drink a beer or whatever. I've heard the argument from Christian friends that we have to go where the people are, and they're on these networks. No. The people are sitting behind a screen, usually alone, often alone in a room full of people. Christians should not only resist this force in our culture, but point to a way of relationship that restores people to real community. How do you discern God's will staring at a cell phone? How do you not miss those moments that have put before you to be an ambassador of Christ's love?
ReplyDeleteGreat post! So many things in our lives can be both good and bad, both helpful and destructive. The key isn't always to exclude these things from our lives, but to learn to use them wisely. Like you said, there isn't a blue print, but God cares about our relationships and our lives, and I believe He'll show us how to live wisely amidst the smart phone mania. Thanks for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteI agree that the problem isn't with the phone but with us. Personally, I know having a smart phone would be too distracting to the relationships around me (being online all the time) so I never got one. I have a silly slide phone that I hate, but for me that's good cause I don't use it as much as I would the other way around. Also, I had my girlfriend lock my ipod so I can't go online. I know that sounds a little crazy, but too many people have wifi at their houses and I get distracted by that as well... All in all, its been nice learning how to balance things to help me live more healthy in my relationships... great article!
ReplyDeletegood and deep research.. carry on with your social responsibilities... God Bless you
ReplyDeleteMobile and social apps and site ruin our life
ReplyDeleteBeaware befor oll addict to it
ReplyDelete100% True we are addict to whatsap n facebook.
ReplyDeleteDeep research, perfectly arrange, nicely design, overall speachless
ReplyDeleteBohot aacha likha hai aapne, ye sach hai ke hum mobile aur social sites ke aadi hochuke hai, jiswajahase hum humari personal life, relations, aur bhi bohot kuch khote jarahe hai, na jane wo din kaha gaye jam hum khul ke real life mai jeeti the, jara offline aake toh dekho. , kaash log samajh paye iss blog ko.
ReplyDeleteBut today when we are kidnapped in the world of ONLINE MODE of technologies..i like that. gr8 job
ReplyDeleteGraphic are look alike r k lakshmans common man. amazing ... perfectly matches to the story line
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing such a wonderful and helpful info
ReplyDeleteTurn off your ringer at dinner with mom and dad. Don’t Instagram your meal with friends. Don’t live tweet your date. A cell phone is not your last bastion of society. In fact, real life social interaction is probably sitting right in front of you.
ReplyDeleteThat eagerness to meet, nakhre, nautanki, sharmana, ikraar, inkaar, and sooooooooooooooooooooooo many feelings.. aab nahi haiwo sab busonline showoff
ReplyDeleteMay your effors worth. god bless you
ReplyDeleteI miss my childhood. games
ReplyDeleteTruely agree with u ... today we just play onine games but wo baat nahi hai yaar
DeleteThank you for your ineciative
ReplyDeleteOmg its so amazing and true, this is my first visit to your blog but i am impressed. you guyz create a whole new world for your readers.
ReplyDeleteRocking blog this time. right blog on right time
ReplyDeleteReunion….dosto ka…it had a feeling of meeting friends after so longggg…but aaj kese kw pass time nahi hai.. i miss those days
ReplyDeleteYou are right whatsap n facebook infact mobile ruin our life. now a days we r just selfish ... we remember or meet our loved once and friends only for working purpose
ReplyDelete‘DIL-SE-DIL’ ka connection bus naam ka reha gaya hai coz hum apnoko importance nahi dete bus ignore karte hai bus facebiok ya whatsap pe wish kardeya hogaya aaj wo personal wali feelings nahi hai...
ReplyDeleteIt is really disappointing when you can't even have a complete conversation with someone before they glance at their phone repeatedly like they're expecting a call from the president any minute.
ReplyDeleteI agree that it is hard to connect when so many things can be "done" long-distance and at an arm's length. That can ruin the chance to form bonds :-\
ReplyDeleteAll so very true! To often when I'm out for dinner with friends I notice that half the people in the restaurant (including my table) are on their smart phone; people who don't have the self control to hold back from checking their phone or checking in on Facebook at a location should simply leave their not so smart phone at home
ReplyDeleteAdvancing technology means that slowly but surely we will lose all our social skills. We will be able to do everything we need to do in front of a computer screen - pay our bills, do our banking, go shopping. And we'll all have hundreds of friends on facebook, - we just won't have the necessary social skills to talk to them face to face.
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ReplyDeleteThe “last seen” timestamp has like, actually ENDED relationships.
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ReplyDeletePlease uninstall the app. One can live without it, just like in the past, when it was not known!
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ReplyDeletePeople especially the young have stopped reading books - hence the over dependence on TV/Mobiles etc.
ReplyDeleteUse phone only when needed !! Try for two weeks Maybe you shall have life bit empty during this period but get hooked to some hobby or doing any activity rather then getting on phone. I suppose phone addiction is worst then drug addiction !!
ReplyDeleteUse an ordinary mobile phone and that is sufficient to get in touch with your beloved and in emergency. Rest of the applications are surely spoiling your brain power!
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It happened to me. One crack in my marriage relationship and my wife’s FB connection with an old boyfriend turned into a (at least one) sexual encounter. Especially bad since I told her prior that such connections were good for that reason. Of course, cell phone, texts and email made the connection thrive and the encounter possible.
ReplyDeleteSpouses should be honest about and open to sharing with each other all communications, especially via technology these days.
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ReplyDeleteBecause of our current technology, it’s true we are almost always connected to our virtual lives via laptops, smartphones, tablet computers, etc. Couples need to make the mutual decision to protect their quality time together by declaring certain times to be free from digital distractions, such as when dining together. Great piece on such a timely topic
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ReplyDeleteMera bhai UPSC ke exam ke leye prepar kar raha tha... par hamesha mobile, facebook, whatsapp pe laga rehta tha, baar baar bolke bhi nahi sunta tha humesha apne manki karta tha, aur usse mobile, facebook ke wajahase wo exam clear nahi kar paya aur aab pachtaraha hai, aab time nikaneke baad pachta ke kya faiyda, maine usko aapka ye blog padhya aur wo fut fut ke rone laga ke pehale kyu nahi aisa koi blog usne padh... aab wo padhaai pe dhyan de raha hai... but muzhe lagta hai ke youngsters ne time rehate apne aap ko iss drug se bacha lena chaheye nahi toh kahi deer na hojaye mere bhai jaise... Bohot dil se likha hai aap ne aur... kaash log iske ahameyat samjha saake. thank you
ReplyDeleteSahi bola aapne. time nikalneke baad pachtake koi faida nahi hai. better hai aabhi control kar lo
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It war rude to dump people by using sms, same thing with social networks, as far as I am concerned.
Face-face communication and real people are so much better!!!
Really it is very helpful advise for this uncertain world and helps to guide these confused generation! Blessing!
ReplyDeleteNice advice, I also have facebook and add some old friends there. I just open it in spare time to give some words or greet my friends. When I was with my spouse, I would prefer to focus on him. He doesn’t have facebook, he doesn’t like it too much. Sometimes he checks my facebook, but so far there’s no complain because he also knew most of friends in my friend list.
ReplyDeleteBrilliant, timely and very sagely advice. As a victim of an internet relationship destroying a marriage, I would like to see this as part of the agreement you sign when you sign up for an account. I think it goes for all social media, not just Facebook.
ReplyDeleteThank you again.
You are so right that boundaries and rules are necessary, especially in this age of connectivity on the internet. Thanks for such a great article!
ReplyDeleteThese are exactly the rules I live by. Not so much my hubby. I am going to leave this page open for him to read. Excellent advice. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThe means by which we communicate have definitely changed, but the old adage of “thinking before you speak (or email, text, tweet, or post)” remains sage wisdom.
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Excellent advice about being VERY mindful of what you post online, especially via social media. It never ceases to amaze me at the kind of comments and statements people freely make online, yet they probably would never voice face-to face.
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ReplyDeleteTechnology aur social media ke wajahase humari life easy hogai hai par wo apna pan him bhool gaye hai kahi. relations n emotions ko hum kahi bhool se gaye hai. kash log emotions ad relations ko samajh paye deer hone se pehale nahi toh hum bhi isse technology ke traha hojayenge just a robot jiske koi emotions nahi hai na koi relations
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